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The Year Of Your Best Self

Happy New Year everyone!
The new year is always a time for us to make new resolutions and plan to make epic changes in our lives. However, once the holiday decorations have been packed, these resolutions become a bit harder to keep and by the time it’s Valentine’s Day, some of us are so set into our old ways that we have forgotten about the decisions that we had made when ringing in the new year. I’ve experienced that rather than making drastic changes such as strict diets, it’s best to gradually make life changes that will help you attain the desired goal. The following are four ways that anyone can help improve their lives without drastic measures:

-Positivity: while many of us may have never purposefully included positivity as a goal when making resolutions, being positive about our outlook on life plays a great part in us achieving our goals. It’s important for us to focus on the good things that happen in our days rather than the negative, no matter how large it might seem. Eclipse the bad from your mind, learn the lesson it was meant to teach you, put it away and work on making tomorrow better. Being positive will motivate you to make all of the other changes that you want to make in your life.

-Love your body: yes, you may need to lose a few pounds and should probably go to the gym; however negative self-talk will never help you accomplish your goal of losing the weight. And while you may be disappointed with it, always keep this in mind “Someone might be wishing they had your body”. Instead, be sure to properly maintain your body both inside and out: stay active, eat food that will enrich your system, drink plenty of water, and lastly be sure to give your body appropriate rest.

-Meditate: be sure to take some time to reflect on everything in your life from time to time. Meditation allows for us to put various aspects of our lives in perspective. Take some time for yourself, whether it is for some alone time at the beach, a yoga class, or for a massage: some time alone for reflection helps you reboot your system and better prepare yourself mentally for the daily activities.

-Reach Higher: let your focus always be to make tomorrow better than yesterday was. Always push yourself mentally. Strive to reach higher and don’t sell yourself short! In all aspects of your life, be sure to always try to reach another level. Be sure to periodically reevaluate your goals, finances, and growth. Create a vision board to help you, and place it in a visible place where you can keep it as your motivation so that when you start your day, you can remember to reach higher.

As we go through the year, challenges will continue to arise but keeping these four simple reminders will ensure that we work daily to improve and at the end of the year emerge a better version of ourselves.

Take care,



Perfect Healthy Banana Pumpkin Bread for the Fall

With the holidays quickly approaching, many of us are starting to have to attend pot lucks at work or dinners with family and friends. While we enjoy this special time of the year and definitely appreciate the cuisine, we can all agree that the holiday food is the number one reason why most people using make exercise as one of the top goals on our New Year’s resolutions list. To help alleviate the madness of all of the calories of these delicious foods, I’m sharing this healthy banana pumpkin bread.


  • 2 1/3 mashed ripped bananas
  • 2 cups of ground oatmeal
  • 1/2 cup of brown sugar
  • 1/3 of Trader Joe’s Pumpkin Pie Spice Cookie Butter
  • 1/2  cup of butter
  • 1 teaspoon of baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon of rum
  • 1/4 teaspoon of salt
  • 2 eggs
  • Nutmeg, all spice, vanilla extract to taste
  • Zest of one lime

In a bowl soften the butter along with the bananas and the brown sugar with the help of a mixer. When the mixture is well incorporated but not smooth, slowly add in the pumpkin spice cookie butter. In a separate bowl, combine all of the dry ingredients (ground oatmeal, salt, baking soda, zest of lime, nutmeg, all spice). Add the eggs, vanilla extract, and rum and lastly the combined dried ingredients. Once all of the ingredients are incorporated, pour into a lightly greased loaf pan and bake in a 350 degree oven for an hour or until you insert a fork in the center and it comes out clean.

This light bread can easily been enjoyed with coffee or tea in the morning as part of a breakfast or simply as a guilt-free dessert. Enjoy it warm or straight from the fridge! You can throw in some of your favorite nuts to increase its nutrition value or remove or alter any of the ingredients.

I hope you will enjoy this simple recipe and enjoy the pumpkin season!


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What every young woman needs to know!

As we continue to make progress with a lot of social issues such as women’s issues, I can’t help but notice that while some progress has been made, many young women do not understand the true meaning of a lot of the movements centered around us. It is becoming more common to see young women mistakenly believe that being an independent and strong woman simply means to be aggressive in their professional goals but they neglect the personal side. We are capable of so much more and deserve to be viewed as much more than shrewd professionals, loving homemakers, or unfortunately opportunists. Sadly, this last category seems to be quickly overpowering the former two as our society becomes more exposed to various reality shows. Our youth today believes so much in instant gratification that everyone now looks for the fastest way to success ignoring that many times, the faster you reach success, the harder you crash. In our quest to become rich, famous, or successful, many of us women have forgotten that being a well rounded woman should be what we aspire to become. Growing up my parents instilled a few principles in my sister and I and I truly believe that they are still valuable today:

  1. Every woman should get an education – whether you choose to be a stay at home mom/wife or you want to be in the workforce, you should at least get a certificate, license, or a degree. Even if you don’t make use of it for a while, having a degree not only gives you something to fall back on always, but you earn respect. Too many women feel trapped in relationships because they are unable to provide for themselves and/or their children because they do not have an education. Whatever your passion may be, get that degree!
  2. Learn the basic culinary skills – you do not need to be a great chef or be able to cook like your mom or grandmother but you should at least have five great dishes that you are able to make. Learning your way around the kitchen does not mean you need to be in there every day. You simply need to learn how to make decent meals. No matter what you hear, there is nothing cute about a girl that only knows how to make reservations.
  3. Be able to properly manage a home – this goes for any adult out of college or that has passed college age! However, in keeping with a theme for the ladies, this is one of my biggest pet peeves! Get decent coordinating furniture, have a set of matching plates, replace your plastic cups with some real drink ware and learn how to pick up a broom and dusting cloth every once in a while. Everyone over 25 should be able to properly maintain a home (regardless of your living situations).
  4. Learn to balance a budget – it is no longer cute once you pass 21, no self-respecting lady  (strenuous situations aside) should have to be going to mom or dad or worst significant other to pay your bills. You should have your priorities straight! If you are fortunate enough to have a good job, learn how to invest your money, start saving, open a retirement fund. If you are currently dodging unidentified phone numbers (debt collectors), you have no business being in the mall trying to add to your credit card bills just to get the latest fashion trend or worse, you have no business making it rain at any club. Financial irresponsibility will follow you years after the hottest spot in town closes and surely longer than the latest hot fashions.
  5. Get some hardware and auto mechanic knowledge – you don’t have to be the one who does your own plumbing but be sure to know what the difference between a hammer and a wrench is. You should also have the basic knowledge of how your car functions so you can ensure that you are not being taken advantage of every time you go to the mechanic. Plus knowing how to read the messages from your dashboard and having some knowledge of how to do some maintenance check can help save you hundreds!

I share these tips because I believe that women are fully capable of being well rounded. We are able to succeed in a profession while being able to take care of ourselves. No able woman should ever feel like she needs to be with someone because she is unable to do certain things for herself. This will keep you feeling inferior and this person may use that knowledge as a way to try to control you. As young women, we should strive to be self-sufficient rather than focusing on how to get rich quick using any means necessary. Self-sufficiency helps increase self-worth and help us earn the respect of others.

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Know Your Worth!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, an oldie R&B song by Otis Redding made famous by Aretha Franklin in 1967 is probably one of our go to music when we feel disrespected or whenever we are want to heighten our confidence. However, how many of us once the tune has stopped can truly say that we truly understand our self-worth? While it is easy for us to simply say that we know we are valuable or priceless, do we truly know what it means to actually know our worth?
To start to decipher this concept of self-worth, I think it is important to break it into two categories: personal and professional. This separation is only done to help establish the definitions but in no way does it separate one from the other. While both the personal and professional make up our overall self-worth, many of us have only been able to master one aspect and few are those who have mastered both.
Personal self-worth can be identified as the knowledge of what we bring to the table as individuals. Whether it is your reliability, honesty, intelligence, caring nature, or your ability to put a smile on others’ faces; these aspects of your character help you embrace and understand your contribution to those around you. While personal self-worth can affect one’s self-esteem, it is not necessarily a great indicator of how one views himself/herself. However with most of us, the more valued we feel by those around us, the more positive effect it will have on our self-esteem.
Professional self-worth is easier to describe and is the value that you hold as a professional. This is closely related to your education, training, and most of all experience. It grows over time but unfortunately, some of us never realize our contribution to the workplace until we receive recognition or simply realize that we have a lot more knowledge (and sometimes education) than members of the leadership team.
Overall, whether it is in our personal or professional life, we must learn to acknowledge our worth. There is nothing worse than witnessing someone get taken advantage of. Whether at work or in a personal relationship, it is imperative that we constantly reevaluate whether we are currently as happy as we would like to be and to be honest with ourselves and admit when we deserve better and work towards obtaining better. Knowing your worth leads to higher confidence and self-esteem. When you recognize your self-worth, you must also act accordingly in order to uphold a higher standard which will dictate how others will view and treat you. After all, whether we recognize it or not, people are only able to treat us as good/bad as we are allowing them to.
I hope this article will help motivate you to want to reach a higher level of happiness in life and discover yourself and establish your own self-worth. When you do, be sure to never forget it!


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Quick tips for a novice in the kitchen

If you’ve never particularly been fond of culinary arts, have only entered the kitchen just for the time it requires for you to either grab something from the refrigerator, and are now facing the fact that you might have to start picking up some kitchen skills, you will want to keep on reading!

Many of us are now realizing that possessing culinary skills is becoming a must because: a) dining out is costly; b) you may not always get food that truly flatter your taste buds; c) your waistline continually will expand as you eat out. If you have made the conscientious decision to take on cooking, I’m hoping to help you start at least with these following tips:

  1. Start with quick cooking grains – no matter the meal, a quick cooking grain will help minimize errors. Quinoa is one of my favorites because of its versatility and also as a great source of iron, protein and magnesium, you are sure to have a very healthy component to your meal. If you are not a fan of quinoa, you can easily substitute with one of the following grains: couscous, bulgur wheat, or healthy pastas made of the previously mentioned grains. If you are a real novice and need further guidance, you can search online through websites such as foodnetwork.com or allrecipes.com for step by step recipes. I’ll start you off with this list from Fitness Magazine: http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/recipes/dinner/healthy-quinoa-recipes/?page=1
  2. Select a protein that is easy and quick to cook – my go to protein sources are boneless/skinless chicken breast and seafood: shrimp or snapper fillet to be more specific. These proteins are easy to clean and take usually less than 30 minutes to cook. They are as error proof as ingredients can be and require little experience to make a successful meal with them. You want to ensure that you properly clean them: shrimp needs to be deveined and the connective tissues need to be removed from the chicken breast. Once they are properly cleaned, you can be as adventurous with your seasoning or simply go with salt and pepper. Be sure to thoroughly cook your protein especially your poultry as you risk contracting salmonella poisoning if consumed undercooked. You can refer to the step by step guides following for more assistance: cleaning chicken: http://enchantedspoon.blogspot.com/2011/02/kitchen-basics-how-to-properly-trim.html; deveining shrimp:  http://www.simplyrecipes.com/recipes/how_to_peel_and_devein_shrimp/
  3. Invest in great seasoning – the seasoning is what can differentiate a bland meal from an exceptional one! While many people think that producing a great tasting meal requires some of the fanciest seasonings, I’ve always thought that the more natural the seasoning, the better the taste. Some of the best spices to use as seasoning include: garlic, pepper, onion, and thyme (depending on the dish). In addition to these, I like to use lime in the cleaning process but it also enriches the taste especially with seafood. For a more depth in the flavor, you may use a small quantity of mustard and hot pepper. For my quick seasoning blend, see my DIY article: https://glamgirlonthego.me/2015/04/23/is-it-worth-it-to-diy/

It will take some practice before you start to feel comfortable in the kitchen, however, the essential part is that you decide to take on the challenge, start with something small and keep practicing until you feel comfortable enough to move on to more complexed recipes. Remember that you’re not alone in your journey, there are many outlets that will help you find new easy recipes to help sharpen your skills such as allrecipes.com or foodnetwork.com. Keep practicing and remember that your taste buds will guide you through the process. You may not become the next “it” chef but I promise that you will definitely learn your way around the kitchen.



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Stepping out of your comfort zone with your wardrobe

How many of us can describe our personal style of dress in less than five minutes? While it might be a mix of fit, colors, length, and possibly a few designers; we all can pretty much define our personal style in a quick conversation. However, have you taken a closer look at your wardrobe to realize that the majority of your closet is a) predominantly of one shade of color, or b) there is not much variety in the styles or patterns? We tend to be creatures of habit and while there is nothing wrong with that, sometimes it’s good to step out just a tad out of your comfort zone and experiment a bit with different styles. Fashion is ever changing but your style is unique and you should be able to learn how to incorporate various pieces into your wardrobe and make it fit. No matter your style, here are three tips on how to step out of your comfort zone:

  1. Add color: let’s face it, our closet is mostly full of clothes in our favorite color and various shades of said color! Next time you’re shopping, conscientiously pick a color that is opposite to those that you tend to gravitate towards. If you tend to wear dark colors, start by picking a white article of clothing or a pastel one and slowly move towards something brighter over time. Rome was not built in a day, and neither will your acceptance of bright colors. At first, it will be best to try to simply pair a dark color with a lighter one until you feel comfortable with lighter tones.
  2. Experiment with fabrics: curious about the leather look but unsure that you want to wear a pair of leather pants? Try a pair of pants with leather trim! Find an article of clothing that incorporates an edgier fabric without being too out of your comfort zone. Whether it is lace, leather, or crinoline, just be sure to keep the rest of your outfit simple so that the statement piece stands out best.
  3. Accessorize: the best part of accessories is that most of the time they are less expensive (unless your statement is diamonds), and are even easier to incorporate in your outfit. Accessories are also an economical way to keep up with the trends. Remember when neon colors and leopard prints were the rave? Imagine if you had flooded your closet with tons of pieces from that trend? However, if you purchased a neon pink belt, you’re still able to pair it with a cute outfit without looking “fashionably outdated”.

Overall, the goal should be for you to continually find ways to keep your wardrobe looking stylish and trendy all the while taking risks and stepping out of your comfort zone. It’s nice to occasionally take part of a trend without compromising your personal style. In the end, you want to be comfortable in whatever outfit you pick, and knowing how to properly include a few of the latest fashion trends into your wardrobe is key to establishing your own style.

Have fun!


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How to rediscover your backyard

As the summer winds down, some of us still have not been able to take a vacation. While for some, it might be a question of schedule; for most of us, it is usually due to financial reasons. Usually, when planning a vacation, the biggest expenses go to the transportation (plane ticket or car rental) and the lodging. We are so focused on leaving town for vacation that some of us probably have no clue about the many touristic places located right in our own backyard! So, if you have been putting off a vacation due to financial reasons, consider the following options:
Center for performing arts – how many people visit New York and have a Broadway play on their list? While your local performing arts center may not feature some of the A list names you may see on Broadway, you will still be able to catch some of the most famous acts playing there as many of these shows are always on tour. While you might not catch Hollywood’s heartthrob, you also will be saving lots of money!
Tour your city/town – depending on where you live, your tourist destinations will vary but one thing is certain: you will find some amazing facts about any city! So whether you live near the water or the mountains, schedule a city/town tour. Start with your local tourist information center for a list of your city/town’s most iconic locations and choose those that appeal to you. If you live in a larger city, contact one of the many companies specialized in city tours and join them.
Enjoy the natural sites – if you live in a coastal city, take a trip to the beach. If you live near mountains, go on a hike. Whichever one applies to you, just be sure to really take the time and enjoy being in nature: listen to the waves, bask in the sun (with proper sun protection!), take a deep breath at the top of a mountain and take in the beautiful view. You will find these sites to be quite relaxing, no matter which one you do, nature is a very effective source of peace.
Participate in events – if you have not done so, create an account with one of many websites promoting various deals throughout your area. They usually list all types of specials in your area ranging from concerts, shows, spa deals, or any special events that may be happening in your area. These are great money savers as they have events that are sometimes as low as $8!
There are still a few weeks left to enjoy summer, so I hope you will be able to take some time to yourself to ensure that you relax and take a break from your daily responsibilities. While you may not leave town as you were probably hoping to do, I guarantee you that you will definitely discover a lot of new places that you did not know existed in your city! Remember, it is imperative to your health (both mental and physical) that you take some time to recharge. Weekends and/or a day off are not enough, you need to take time to remove yourself from your daily activities and give yourself time to appreciate the simple things in life for a little while.


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Saying no does not make you a bad person!

Do you continually find yourself in situations that you really should have avoided but felt compelled to say yes? Then you are just like me! So many of us are always afraid of saying no because we feel some kind of obligation to always want to please others even if that means that it will be to our detriment. We always want to be available and sometimes it does not always turn out for the best. While there are many reasons why saying no does not make you a bad person, I’ve selected the following three instances as reasons why sometimes it is good to say no:

  1. You’re spreading yourself thin – if you already have a busy schedule, saying yes when you should be saying no would cause for you to spread yourself thin and ultimately every aspect in your life will suffer including this task that you felt obligated to take on! In a work environment, this can be very serious and may even cause for your leadership team to view you in a negative light. In a personal setting, you risk to create tension between you and your loved ones if said task is not completed to the level expected.
  2. You are in over your head – whether professional or personal, you should never take on a task that you know that you are clearly not qualified to complete. There could be so many repercussions and professionally this can even lead to negative reviews and in some cases, your termination. Be true to yourself and know your limits, no one has the answer to everything and can do all things; so if you are really interested in helping, maybe you can volunteer to help find someone best suited to complete the task and offer your assistance to that person.
  3. You are taking time out of your personal time – yes, you read it right! Everyone deserves to have some type out of the week (preferably out of the day) slated just for you. Whether you decide to rest and catch on your sleep, or simply indulge in your favorite activity such as cooking, reading, or Netflix binge watching: it’s your time! Depriving yourself of this special time is cutting out some relaxation time for your mind and body to reset. While others may not understand it, don’t allow yourself to be guilted into doing something when you already had planned to spend that time on you.

No matter the reason, most of the time when we say no, it is not out of contempt. There is usually a reason and you are not obligated to state your reason, as that usually gives the other person an opening to try to convince you and thus make the situation increasingly uncomfortable. Keep in mind that you reserve the right to decline to participate in any activity/event at any time, provided it is an option. Life is about choices, and you should not let others make you feel bad for exercising that right. While it is your right to decline, be sure that you are doing so in a polite and respectful manner because ultimately, it is usually the delivery of your response that earns you the negative labels.




Every Naturalista’s Must Haves!

If you are currently going through or have gone through the natural transition, you’ve probably become addicted to the following: YouTube and product shopping! Having gone through my initial transition 5 years ago, it has been a true learning experience. I began my transition with the keratin treatment and gradually cut the straight parts of my hair (3 inches every 8 weeks) until it was all back to my natural state finally last year. While my decision to go natural was a medical one (the relaxer was too harsh and caused very bad scarring to my scalp in addition to my hair thinning), I have truly enjoyed my journey. It has made me feel more comfortable in embracing myself as a woman and has definitely made life easier in a lot of ways! I’ve never been knowledgeable in how to manage my hair. Even when I had a relaxer, I could not even use a curling iron much less learn how to roller set! The only tool I mastered was the flat iron. By no means have I become a hair guru with my natural curls, however, I find natural hair to be more forgiving. No matter the hairstyle that you are trying to achieve, the following will definitely help you pull a very stylish look:

  • Oils: one of the most important ingredients that all hair especially natural curls need is oils! Olive, argan, avocado, shea – any of these oils are very helpful to your hair but my must have oil is coconut oil! It is non greasy and helps with scalp health, shine, and nourishment for your curls.
  • Hair ties: these should be purchased by the hundreds! For some reason, no matter how many you think you have, you can never seem to find one when you are really in need. So buy them in high quantity and keep a few in your most frequented places: in your personal drawer at work, in the glove compartment in the car, and definitely in your purse.
  • Hair pins: just like the ties, hair pins are a must. Curls tend to be unruly therefore a few pins are always needed to help secure them and help you keep your polished look intact.
  • Hair gel/ custard/ jelly: in the spirit of keeping flyaways tamed, these different types of products will definitely be lifesaving. Remember, a little goes a long way.
  • Spray bottles: use them to mix your favorite LOC method (liquid, oil, conditioner), or simply to have water easily accessible while doing your hairstyle, spray bottles are important. I also suggest having a travel size which you can carry with you when travelling to keep your hair looking fresh!

When it comes to your journey in the natural hair process, no two stories are alike. Some of us have been very fortunate to quickly learn how to effectively manage the transition while some of us may continually be conducting research on YouTube on the best methods to address various natural hair dilemmas. Here’s my suggestion: don’t worry so much about achieving a professional status within the first few months of transitioning. The first years will be tough as you will be dealing with various textures of hair unless you did a big chop. Plus if you chose to transition, you will have to pay closer attention to maintaining your hair healthy. However, a full year into being fully natural I’ve come to heavily rely on some of my favorite YouTube channels such as Moknowshair, MahoganyCurls, and Naptural85. These ladies share short videos on hairstyles, various processes for natural hair and most importantly do some product reviews which can help you make a decision when considering a new line.

I hope these tips will help you conquer your transition and no matter what, don’t give up!


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Five Refreshing Ways to Enjoy Your Water This Summer

It is 85 degrees at 9am, the sun is beating you every time you head outdoors, and summer is here! It’s almost impossible to stay cool, and thus you find yourself reaching for that water bottle throughout the day. While most of us tolerate drinking water, let’s face it: water is bland and after a few glasses, unless you just ran a marathon and are absolutely parched, you are starting to wish that there was a little more pizzazz in that bottle. I’m sharing 5 of my favorite ways to enjoy water and get some extra nutrients:

  • Citrus infused: add a slice of orange, lime, and grapefruit to your water and instantly have a citrus flavored water to give your taste buds variety but also to help boost your immunity with some extra vitamin C.
  • Cucumber and Mint: add a few slices of cucumber and some fresh mint leaves and not only will you have a refreshing water mix, but the mint will also help with your digestion.
  • Berry infused: if you want to add a little sweetness without reaching the sugar, chop some strawberries, blueberries, and raspberries and add them to your water. Be sure to watch for the berry seeds when sipping your water.
  • Lettuce infused: one of the water infusions that I grew up drinking, you simply add hot water on some lettuce leaves (romaine or iceberg depending on your preference). This mixture will require some advance preparation as you will need to let the water cool in the refrigerator.
  • Pineapple infused: another favorite growing up, this infusion helps you find a use for the pineapple peels prior to tossing them. Add them in a pitcher and fill it with water and let it sit for a while. Be sure to always thoroughly wash the pineapple (as you should with all of the ingredients) prior to cutting it.

While these concoctions cannot fully remedy the heat situation, they will at least help you keep cool during the summer months while also helping you make hydration fun! These options are especially fun for small children as they can be picky.